How To Feel Better About Your Life

When you were little, did it seem like people couldn’t wait to define you? Maybe your parents would say, “You’re messy,” or friends would tell you, “You’re forgetful.” Heck, even teachers may have said, “You’re a procrastinator.” 

For whatever reason, so much of our early years are spent with people trying to label us and put us in a nice, neat box. (Even if it’s a negative one!)

The problem is, those labels and stories can get stuck in our minds. They can play on repeat until we internalize them and start to believe “I am messy” or “I will never get anything done.”

But here’s the deal: All of those labels are meaningless. You get to create your own story — not someone else. And no one knows you like you know you.

So, today, let’s break free of those labels that are holding you back. Because when you own your story, you choose the life you want to lead.

1. First, write down in your journal any labels or stories swirling in your head that are holding you back. You know, the ones that keep nagging you, preventing you from living a happy life or going after your dreams.

2. Next, create a mantra, like, “I am not going to let others define me,” or “I am smart, capable and wonderful.” Repeat your mantra whenever you feel a negative story pop into your head.

3. Take a few minutes to jot down all of the positive qualities that describe the real you. Think: Strong, courageous, intelligent, funny, compassionate. Keep your confidence cup brimming by reminding yourself of how wonderful you truly are.

4.Think over your relationships — is anyone, in particular, creating definitions for you that you don’t like? Is anyone making you feel small or bringing you down? If you find that you’re surrounding yourself with people who aren’t making you feel all that good, you may want to have a talk with them, or let go of the relationship entirely.

Remember, you get to create the story of your life. So this weekend, start revising and telling it your way!

With so much love,

Emily and the EveryDay Happy Team

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“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” — Maya Angelou

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