We’ve heard it since we were kids — we need to have patience. Patience when learning how to tie our shoes, patience when learning how to ride a bike, patience in waiting to get our license, and patience in turning another year older so we can do all the things grown-ups do.
But life is different than it was even two decades ago, and there are many things we don’t have to wait for. We no longer have to patiently watch ads that interrupt our TV shows or wait weeks by the mailbox for something to arrive. We can download almost anything on-demand and get almost anything delivered to our doorstep in 24 hours.
All of this instant-ness is great, it’s wonderful, it makes life easy — but, on the flip side, it’s making it harder for us to have patience with ourselves. In this world of instant gratification, too many of us are lacking patience for reaching our goals, learning new things, or dealing with something out of our control.
As a result, we’re becoming harder on ourselves. Trite but true, good things take time and there really is joy in a journey. That’s why now more than ever, it’s important to slow it down and be realistic with yourself and not only accept, but appreciate the process.
We have to celebrate the small steps and wins and not get deterred or give up when something takes longer than we’d like it to.
If you could use help building your patience, try giving gardening a go. You’ll learn quickly you can’t force nature and there’s so much satisfaction in planting a seed and watching it grow. A seasoned gardener knows it’s not just about the flowers or veggies in full bloom that bring you joy, but watching them grow and tending to them. There’s an appreciation for the process.
Having patience helps us to stop focusing on the end results, and start appreciating the process of growing, learning, and changing.
Be patient with yourself and your life. You’re doing amazing things!
Emily and the EveryDay Happy Team
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Learning a new skill not only helps you practice patience, it can have a ton of other mental benefits too — like helping prevent dementia and boosting your self-confidence.
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Quote du jour
“Patience is not simply the ability to wait — it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.” — Joyce Meyer
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