Four Ways to Be Kinder to Yourself

Do you ever find yourself being unnecessarily hard on yourself? Or putting yourself down? We all have an inner voice that can’t seem to help but comment on our behavior and actions throughout the day. This inner critic often tells us what we’re doing is “good” “bad” and praises or beats us up depending. 

While it’s important to try and show up in the world as your best self, negative self-talk doesn’t do you or anyone else any good. So if you’re ready for a more loving, supportive voice to take over the mic in your head, here are four ways to calm your inner critic and allow your inner champion to shine through. 

Show yourself self-compassion. No one is perfect, so when you notice you’re being hard on yourself and putting yourself down, remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can. Instead of berating yourself, give yourself a break and take a few minutes to consider what you love about Y-O-U. 

Ask yourself … “Would I say this to a friend?” We often treat our loved ones with far more kindness than we treat ourselves. When you notice negative self-talk is bringing you down ask yourself, “Would I say this to a friend?” Chances are you wouldn’t even consider it. Be your own best friend and use your inner voice to build yourself up, not break you down. 

Learn your inner critic triggers. Does that mean voice pop up whenever you’re running late? Or when you have a forgetful moment? Be aware of what causes your inner critic to stir, so you can be easier prepared to let that commentary go. 

Meditate. Meditation is designed to give your mind a rest from all the chatter in our heads. Even five minutes a day can help you feel more positive. If you don’t already, try and make room in your morning schedule to get comfy and allow yourself some time for inner peace. 

Wishing you a wonderful weekend, friend. Be good to yourself!

With love,

Emily

 

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