I think we all can agree, 2020 took us on an emotional roller coaster, and 2021 feels like more of the same. With all the ups and downs, it’s been challenging to feel that sense of security we’re so used to and love, and even more challenging to stay optimistic.
As tough as it may be, there’s value in keeping your eye on the bright side of things. Like Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or you can’t — you’re right.”
Here are three ways to keep looking on the bright side (even when it feels nearly impossible):
- Give some attention to what’s been getting your attention. Are you reading, watching, and scrolling through too much negative news? Are you falling down the social media rabbit hole?
In life, when you make the effort to look for good you’ll actually see more good.
You’ve probably noticed that when you’re looking for something you start seeing a lot more of it? Like if you’re thinking about adopting a dog, you’ll start noticing pups everywhere. It’s a real thing, called the Baader–Meinhof phenomenon. (Some also say it’s the law of attraction in action!)
Your brain seeks out confirmation of what it’s already seen, and you can use this to your advantage. If you pay attention to what’s going well in the world — things like acts of kindness, beauty in nature, or small moments of joy in the day — you’ll likely start noticing a whole lot more of it.
- Keep dreaming big. Dreams, goals, and plans are imperative to a happy life. They motivate us to get off the couch and to feel excited about the days, weeks, and months ahead.
Grab a journal and write down any dreams you have swirling in your head. What would you like to experience in the next year? The next three years?
- Choose joy by deciding on a mantra or phrase to tell yourself when you get the urge to binge news or anything else negative. It can be as simple as asking yourself, “Will this make me happy right now? Will this help me see the good in the world?”
It’s not always easy to stay positive these days and you’re allowed to experience every emotion under the sun. It’s OK to feel sad, angry, or frustrated — just keep in mind joy is the goal so try not to wade in negative emotional pools.
We’re all connected more than we realize, and when you keep your head to the sun and stars, you’ll help others do the same.
(A quick note, if you’re feeling more than a little down, please talk to a professional. We’ve all been through a lot, and talking to a counselor, doctor, or other mental health resource can be a big help if you’re feeling depressed or anxious.)
Take good care of yourself and as Louise Hay would say, “Remember, life loves and supports you.”
Emily and the EveryDay Happy Team
Quote du jour
“Never regret a day in your life: good days give happiness, bad days give experience, worst days give lessons, and best days give memories.” — Unknown
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